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« on: July 22, 2021, 02:36:33 PM »
Wanted to help this boy but don’t know how? Pls help.
Male born in Malaysia 28 Jun 1986 (07:57PM)
1. He has parents who constantly quarrels and a mom who likes threatening to throwing all her young kids out of the window and jumping down herself. When the kids are in their teens she likes running away from home making the children frantic going in search for her. The whole family, except for his father and youngest brother, went into depression and falls dependent on medication.
2. His siblings are all married with kids of their own and lived elsewhere.
3. He is single and living with his aged parents who had never stop their lifetime hobby of quarrelling.
4. Few years back he quit his stressful job and help out in his parents’ hawker stall.
5. In mid of year 2017 he was seriously ill with TB. He went through the intensive treatment regimen for the few months.
6. After full recovery he took over his parents’ business and initiated tie-up with food delivery services of his hawker food.
7. His business is doing well and managed to survive through the past 18 months of intermittent lockdowns in Malaysia.
8. Lately he was under a lot of stress from the supply chain to his business (some closing down, late and/or no stock delivery) causing him to running around seeking alternatives.
9. A week ago, he dumped the business and walked out, under immersed stress from work and at home (at verge of a nervous breakdown).
10. According to him, his main life focus is: being the eldest son, it is his full responsibility to take care of his old folks and the stigma from his past bad health (depression & TB) he has made it a point not to socialize or get married, coz he feels that he can die anytime.
My concern is how is he going to live the rest of his life after his parents are gone. I had indicated my willingness to invest in his business, should he want to expand it (he feels economic timing is not good now). His siblings and friends had tried introducing girls to him but he turned down all of them coz he doesn’t want to make them a widow. I have suggested for him to embrace some faith (be it Buddhism, Taoism, Christianity) but he don’t believe in any of them, he only believes in himself. The BIG PROBLEM is, I don’t think he is STRONG in believing in himself. His future looks bleak.