searching for silver lining - its dark :(

[deep autumn]

There is no point in waiting for better luck; every day you can do something to improve yourself. Just focus on things that you have control of; the rest will come.

@johnyqi
i know, and i have always stood strong no matter what but right now i feel that inner motivation died somewhere inside but anyways, em trying and hoping

[leonard28]

Thanks for the information, it's very helpful for me to ascertain that your birth hour is 5-7pm and I can provide a more accurate analysis.

Due to numerous clashes in the Earthly Branches (Year vs Hour, Month vs Day, Year vs Day), there are some serious incompatibilities between yourself and your ancestral family. Rather than being supportive, you have encountered and will continue to encounter difficult situations when you are close to them. I hate to say this, but it would be much more beneficial if you minimize (or even cut off) contact with your birth family.

Move someplace else, perhaps back to the original city where your work was once based, so it would be easier for you to get more opportunities. Besides you're already 34 years, it's long overdue to establish outside on your own.

Migration to a different country doesn't seem likely in this phase 2019-28. However, I see the possibility of some movement this year, as Stagecoach appears. You may wish to consider moving out. In the next phase 2029-38, you stand a good chance of successful migration.

The clash between Month vs Day pillars, together with Day Branch element falling in Void, means it will be tough to bring about marriage. Even when you do get married, I'm sorry to say you have a low affinity with your husband. Marriage is the beginning of a new stage in life, not the end result you're looking for. A different set of challenges will come in, and it's unlikely that your future spouse will be able to support or help you much.

As I've mentioned in an earlier post, your Output elements come in 2025-27. The current phase makes your Daymaster strong and you can make some good money in business at that time. In the meantime, I suggest you continue upgrading your skills and doing whatever you can to make ends meet. How good those 3 years can be, depends on how well you make use of the meantime.

Don't give up, keep going. Be objective and logical in your approach, don't take unnecessary risks. When the time comes, everything will fall into place and you will be able to gain the advantage. I guess you already know you have to depend on your own effort in this lifetime, friends and family can't help you much.

[deep autumn]

@leonard28

i appreciate your detailed response.
I am trying to keep myself at at distance with my family and it's not hard as there's no closeness. but moving somewhere else will be another encounter as i mentioned earlier that my mother is totally against letting me go anywhere on my own. By trying other countries, i just think that she wont have not a strong hold over things.

by stagecoach, do u mean November?

The clash between Month vs Day pillars, together with Day Branch element falling in Void, means it will be tough to bring about marriage. Even when you do get married, I'm sorry to say you have a low affinity with your husband. Marriage is the beginning of a new stage in life, not the end result you're looking for. A different set of challenges will come in, and it's unlikely that your future spouse will be able to support or help you much.

what do u suggest then? do u think it would be disastrous? low affinity can still produce a long term bond?
how about the thing that when ppl get married their life phases start reflecting their combined energies? will that help in my case anyway?
also, i read that 7k can be considered as spouse star, though its weak being in roots but its still their in self palace still not helpful?
one more thing u mentioned earlier, that suitable partner is likely to appear after 2030, what to do of the proposals i am having right now? how should i deal them? what if someone feels reasonable too? why they appearing and should i just hold on to this marriage thing for now?

[leonard28]

Hi deep autumn,

Stagecoach element appears this year and in November. There is likely some travel or movement involved.

Low affinity with spouse can manifest a thousand and one different scenarios, usually circumstances will induce more time being apart than together. On the less serious end of the continuum for example, you and your partner may be spending time away from each other due to work. If it's bad enough, divorce may take place. Low affinity also can be experiencing obstacles getting married, or not meeting the "right" person, which you've encountered for quite some time.

The element in your spousal palace is not favorable and it's not likely that he can support or help you much. Whether there will be a long term bond, depends on the effort by both of you, and how circumstances turn out in your lives.

A compatibility reading can discern the clashes and combinations of elements in both your charts. It's not necessarily helpful in everyone's case. As your DM is on the weaker side, 7K is not a favorable element because it disperses your energy. You have a good chance of eventually getting married, but like I mentioned, low affinity can be a problem.

You don't have to put the proposals on hold. I think it's best you get to know the potential partners well and decide who suits you more. If someone feels reasonably good for you, by all means see where it leads. Marriage is a very big commitment. I caution against rushing the process. Take your time on this matter. Rushing into marriages usually don't end up well.

[deep autumn]

hey leonard28

thankyou for a detailed response, i have been busy with work couldn't check.
well, as per you say about the stagecoach, november is already gone and theres nothing, no mentionable movement.

[deep autumn]

hey @leonard28

thankyou for a detailed response, i have been busy with work couldn't check.
well, as per you say about the stagecoach, november is already gone and theres nothing, no mentionable movement.

[leonard28]

Being preoccupied with work is one of the manifestations of the Stagecoach. It doesn't just mean travel or moving house. Besides, if you are really keen to move out, there should be some initiative. From your statement "november is already gone and theres nothing, no mentionable movement", it seems to me you're just waiting for something to happen. A person with lottery luck still has to go out and buy some tickets.

I don't understand what you're really trying to say or ask here. Likewise, I don't know how to answer you. You can speak what's on your mind and ask directly. If your point is that what I said is not accurate, feel free to ignore. Remember, this is a forum for FREE readings. Nobody has the obligation to reply.

[deep autumn]

@leonard28

i never said you are wrong, of course you are not and i respect that you showed concerns and took time out to respond for nothing. Out of frustration i am just trying to get some right piece of direction.

i wasn't occupied with work, infact work is same as i mentioned earlier. this month its my father's health and that affected the routine, i stayed more busy with family. Also i mentioned the conditions linked to me for my move, and that i have tried 3 times before as well. i still want to and trying too but .. and obviously i am not waiting for thing to fall in my lap, i struggled i am struggling and that continuous struggle is now frustrating me enough to give up. and trying to understand my destiny abit if in case i have to take harsh steps to move ahead.

[divinerchan]

I suggest you do some work on growing food. It brings you luck.