Partner compatibility

[Steph123]

Hi, I would like some help in reading my bazi chart and compatibility with my partner.
We have been dating for several months, we have great chemistry and communication.
He has told me to move the relationship to the next step... live together. Hope to get some help here to read our bazi charts further, so I can learn from your point of views.

I am a female born in 20-September-1993 (09:10 AM)
He  is male born in 29-July-1982 (unknown hour)

I would like to know if the clashes and punishments are going to affect the relationship in the future. Is it recommendable to create a family together without harming in some way the other person?
Thank you in advance!

[Steph123]

Please help me!!
This are our Bazi charts. 

[Gmuli]

I think there was a reason no one answered the first time...
The chart on the Image is from 29 July, I would assume that was a mistake in input, as the date above is for 28 July.

And 28 July will have a lot of troubles keeping long term relationship in my way of reading it. And this goes beyond what I usually comment on, when there are challenges and obstacles to overcome, as in this case this type of chart I haven't seen a single person that made it work for one stable happy marriage in their life. Very few got to few year marriage, either.

We don't know the hour, so maybe not fully impossible, but if he made it work will be the first I've seen so far.

Your chart is great for long term relationship, actually, but obviously for this specific question we would need both chart to work good.

Of course, this is just a reading etc yet this is one of those things that I would be very happy to see an exception, but the more years go by the less likely I think it is to happen.

[Steph123]

I am sorry if there may be a misunderstanding in the DOB of my partner. The correct day is 29 July 1982. I double checked the image, it was my mistake to put an hour but the date is correct. Is it really necessarily to know the hour?

You were talking about 28 July, but what about 29 July? Is the same with a lot of troubles? I was reading that he has a bullying punishment in his chart (ox-goat-dog) is this going to affect our relationship? and also he has dog in the year pillar and I have dragon in my DM causing a clash, is it means problems in our lives if we get married?

[Gmuli]

I am sorry if there may be a misunderstanding in the DOB of my partner. The correct day is 29 July 1982. I double checked the image, it was my mistake to put an hour but the date is correct. Is it really necessarily to know the hour?

You were talking about 28 July, but what about 29 July? Is the same with a lot of troubles? I was reading that he has a bullying punishment in his chart (ox-goat-dog) is this going to affect our relationship? and also he has dog in the year pillar and I have dragon in my DM causing a clash, is it means problems in our lives if we get married?

This is better, in my humble opinion, although potentially still difficult...
29 July is full punishment, yea.
These are rare to see in full form, so I'm not sure how it will affect his life. There should be tension and pressure from it, getting stronger when parts of it are added from periods in his life. But I have rarely seen it in full form, maybe when its full the person gets more used to it with time. Its still not great, though, but I guess may be better, depending on other factors(choices/feng shui etc.)

I wouldn't worry much about Dog to Dragon, his Dog is in the year pillar, so this is some way of relating to the outside world and his early years. Having conflicts with that isn't big problem as its far away from him. Although maybe can show up from time to time when it comes to early years or far away places.

He is fully clashing the month pillar, however... But we don't know the hour and you should be in the hour. Did he had previous partner he had a lot of resentment for?

Is the hour important depends what we want to know, for this relationship it is important as if his potential spouse is younger she will either be in the hour or interact with it in some way. So basically its important for his chart(as you would be in it) while not so important for your char(as he would be in year pillar as he is older).

So then we have your chart - that can work well for long term relationship with older partner.
Then we have his chart, he has punishment, that may make it difficult, clashing fully the month pillar with the day pillar, yet the important factor would be in the hour and without that we can't be sure how he will relate to you, specifically.

[Steph123]

This is better, in my humble opinion, although potentially still difficult...
29 July is full punishment, yea.
These are rare to see in full form, so I'm not sure how it will affect his life. There should be tension and pressure from it, getting stronger when parts of it are added from periods in his life. But I have rarely seen it in full form, maybe when its full the person gets more used to it with time. Its still not great, though, but I guess may be better, depending on other factors(choices/feng shui etc.)

He is fully clashing the month pillar, however... But we don't know the hour and you should be in the hour. Did he had previous partner he had a lot of resentment for?

So he has also a Fan Yin in his chart right? what does that means? Maybe he will have a lot of trouble regarding his personal life like family, work, health and career?

When he was a child, his parents went abroad and leave him without a guardian or someone to take care to him. So he grew up in a difficult situation with a lot of troubles and bullying went he was attending school. But after, he coped with that situation and began to work hard. I think this is what you refer that maybe he got used to the punishment.
He had a previous relationship, he loved so much that girl but she betrayed him. At first, he had a lot of resentment but later he let it go.

[Gmuli]

Well,it seems to fit very nice to what you described...
May also include problems with health related to Earth or Water...

Month is people around, traditions, beliefs, the root causes for much of what is going on in the rest of the pillars... So its stronger and deeper then the other pillars. Influence from Month to Day is very important, and in this case it suggests challenges both on the surface that also go deeper then usual.

His chart is very challenging, as all these earth are also Officers... Its impressive to go through so much and still arrive on the other end functioning well enough... Yet we don't know the hour pillar, so we can't be sure where he is moving towards, hopefully to somewhere nicer, as the path so far seems heavier then we usually have here.