Long term fear of relationship infidelity

[Oreganosunshine]

Hi all!
So apparently one of my grandparents did a reading for me when I was younger saying that my husband will leave me for another woman. I'm married now and have forgotten all about it, but recently we wanted to renovate a house that we have just bought and our parents informed us that we have to use bazi which reminded me of my old trauma in relationships due to the old reading. Could someone help me analyze me and my husband chart?

Female:
Hour   (bing horse/wu)
Day     (ding goat/wei)
Month(gui pig/hai)
Year    (gui rooster/you)

Male:
Hour    (geng dog/xu)
Day      (ren monkey/shen)
Month (ding rooster/you)
Year     (bing tiger/yin)

[j27945]

Do you have it in western format? ttddmmyy

cos, need to plot the luck pillar to take a look.

[Xuéshēng]

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[Origin]

Hi @Oreganosunshine

I am using below DOB for the reading:
Male - 25th September 1986, Xu hour
Female - 22nd November 1993, Wu hour

From a ZWDS point of view, your chart shows no concrete signs of infidelity. However do not let money be an issue between you two. I will advise you to spend less, especially your husband's money. He can be slightly patient with you, but you do not want to get overboard and step on his mine, he will blow. His own spending habits need to be controlled as well.

[TaiYin]

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[Oreganosunshine]

Oh yes,
Female (nov 22, 1993 12pm vietnam)
Male (sept 25, 1986 8pm malaysia)

[j27945]

Oh yes,
Female (nov 22, 1993 12pm vietnam)
Male (sept 25, 1986 8pm malaysia)

Male chart has a natural flair or gift of speech. I won't go deeper as I afraid I may affect relationship. Your chart also quite blossoming.

What you can do is arrange your sleep position to be in his Yian Nian 延年, then he would have no choice but to think of you often.

[Oreganosunshine]

Oh yes,
Female (nov 22, 1993 12pm vietnam)
Male (sept 25, 1986 8pm malaysia)

Male chart has a natural flair or gift of speech. I won't go deeper as I afraid I may affect relationship. Your chart also quite blossoming.

What you can do is arrange your sleep position to be in his Yian Nian 延年, then he would have no choice but to think of you often.

@j27945 Is it possible for you clarify abit? I personally believe if things are talked about and boundaries are set earlier on, actions we choose would prevent us from going the negative outcome. Even if it's "what ifs" scenerio, I believe it would be more helpful in the relationship to discuss and face it heads on rather having suspicion and worry looming over us.

[Oreganosunshine]

Oh yes,
Female (nov 22, 1993 12pm vietnam)
Male (sept 25, 1986 8pm malaysia)

Here you go @TaiYin. I just found out how to use the tag.

[TaiYin]

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From a ZWDS point of view, your chart shows no concrete signs of infidelity. However do not let money be an issue between you two. I will advise you to spend less, especially your husband's money. He can be slightly patient with you, but you do not want to get overboard and step on his mine, he will blow. His own spending habits need to be controlled as well.

Notice that I only mentioned about wife's chart with no solid sign of infidelity, without revealing husband's chart? I realized in CM it is not morally right to plant a seed of doubt. Infidelity may or may not happen as signs can always take another form, but are we to jinx the marriage by saying things we should not? I hope amateurs like me may want to restrain what they say in the future.

Anyway, IMO, infidelity comes from 2 factors:
1. Uncontrollable moment of lust
2. Unhappiness in marriage

We may control our own, but cannot control another person's lust. Yet marriage happiness is something we can work upon, and that should always be the main concern. If a marriage ends up tattered and chaotic, it may still end bitterly, infidelity or not. Just my 1 cent worth.

[TaiYin]

We are not here to judge each other but to Love One Another. 
- Wald Wassermann

[Oreganosunshine]

Female (nov 22, 1993 12pm vietnam)

I just had a quick look at the generated chart based on the above.
Hmmmm, there is a tendency of getting cheated.
In order to see if he leaves you due to cheating or other reason, will need to dive into deeper. Pay a master to read and it is best to pay a fengshui master to renovate your new place based on marriage and health [love and health-wise for both].

Edited: did not read his..

All the best!

Well, I was cheated by two of my past relationship before my husband (one of them being my ex-fiance), and the other three of my past relationship I wouldn't know since that time I was too busy with my college classes. That's why I chose my husband because he's very loyal to me and open for me to check his phone if I'm feeling restless knowing that I'm still traumatize by my last two exes. And he was adamant that mistresses are a waste of money after seeing what happened with his grandfather experience, esp after the nasty divorce between his grandparents and the messy inheritance settlement post his grandfather's death. 
@TaiYin Is there any signs in my husband chart that he would be easily attracted to other women?

[TaiYin]

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[Oreganosunshine]

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Is there any signs in my husband chart that he would be easily attracted to other women?

I don’t see any obvious tendency he has it in the chart, only thing - both of you would need a lot of work in communication.

Being negative side, such as suspicion, jealousy and arguments is really not going to help in long term. This will slowly cause friction in your marriage. Since, you’re married based on your wise decision, then work on strengthening the marriage further.

You may feel as if being thwarted by unfair circumstances in the past, although this is often due to being too pushy or aggressive, or negative side without knowing. A gentler touch plus a well positivity will benefit you and people around you more.

Again, I do recommend to follow your family’s advice in paying for Fengshui Master. Look at love / marriage and health perspective.

Don’t worry too much over something that hasn’t or maybe not going to happen. 
All the best.

Okay! Thanks @TaiYin