Thank you so much to
@Bazi_Fan for taking the time for such an in depth answer. I really appreciate it!!:)
It is of relief that we are compatible. I attempted to read his bazi and thought he would be unhappy in his marriage. So came here to clarify as i am very amateur.
1)- He has refined taste due to the rooted EG
(What is refined taste, any example?)
2)- he may be less romantic or listen to your daily ramblings less over time.(i used to be unhappy and think is it because im not as attractive to him thats why he dont really bother to be romantic or chasing much, but lately ive learned that it is just him, and not because im not worth it!

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3)- he is friendly with females which you may not like so much (is there a deep rooted reason for this or he is just flirty? Or he just like attention from females?)(actually these type of issues regarding other females really do affect me)
4)Can you tell from Bazi if he has wandering eyes? My dad once adviced me to avoid men who has wandering eyes.
I also dont want to wrongly accuse him. We quarrelled alot when i notice him looking at other women.( When i mention to him, he stops but after awhile he begins again. Often, he claims he is not looking because he think is attractive or what. He says that he just observing everyone around him from kids to male or female to elderly etc?)
5)- you might be slightly lazy or complacent compared to what he expects (yes true, he actually mentioned just last month he dont like my laziness, so i decided to change and have more drive in life now)
6)Did you all get together this year or planning to take the next step this year?
-We got tgt in 2018.
Hmmm i would love to have a marriage. However is all up to him, i dont want to rush him.
-Actually last month we kind of broke up.
He said he dont see a future with me, and that we quarrelled so much that he lost feelings for me, he wanted to just take care of his parents, then retire early, and migrate to live alone..and all those. I was honestly lost, alot of these i didnt see coming at all.
I didnt want to agree to the break. But he said he was firm and will just wait for me to agree when im ready.
3 days later he text me, then 20 days later we are back tgt.
Im not really young for a female anymore , i hope this guy can be the one i can go through life till old age together.