Please read my bazi about relationship

[Sharbear890]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to Bazi and would like some help on my relationship.

I am a Female born on September 10th, 1997 (8:10PM). I was born in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada.

I have someone that I was with for almost 4 years but because he said he can no longer wait for me because he wants to marry someone before 30, he broke up with me and he actually met somebody two days before breaking up with me. I feel such a strong connection with him and he told me that he does to but because he wants to marry before 30 he cannot wait for me till I'm ready. He also said my family is too complicated for him and it was always in the back of his mind.

He is a male born on March 30, 1993 (3:15PM). He was born in Shenyang, China.

These are my questions:
Should I ask him to give us another try or should I let go? I feel we've been through so much together. Does his bazi show how he will be after he's married? a lot of people around me has said he won't be a good choice but my feelings for him are so strong.
When will be suitable for me to get married?
when will I find that person if it's not him?
How's my Bazi and what do you see in my chart?

Thank you

[crimsongem]

Should I ask him to give us another try or should I let go? I feel we've been through so much together. Does his bazi show how he will be after he's married? a lot of people around me has said he won't be a good choice but my feelings for him are so strong.
When will be suitable for me to get married?
when will I find that person if it's not him?
How's my Bazi and what do you see in my chart?

Thank you

I'm sorry for your loss. If I were you, I would just let him go.

Your self-element is Yin Wood. Your ex self-element is Yang Metal.

You don't have Yang Metal, so naturally you want him a lot. Unfortunately, your BF has excessive Yin Wood element... which means it's so easy for him to leave and forget about you.

Physically, I think you look attractive because you have strong Yin Wood (flower) and Xin Metal (diamond). Your ex is equally attractive. Balanced between Xin/Yang Metal and then really strong Yin Wood.

You will find more suitors in your mid 20s to early 30s. However, you should be more decisive to "seal the deal" later.

You are a self-driven and independent woman which may not sit well with your ex. Despite your strong personality, you seem like a cool person emotionally.

Your ex has little Earth. Indicating that he may have a problem with buying/owning a house. His best period will come in his 50s. His ideal partner's self-element is Yin Fire.

[Sharbear890]

Should I ask him to give us another try or should I let go? I feel we've been through so much together. Does his bazi show how he will be after he's married? a lot of people around me has said he won't be a good choice but my feelings for him are so strong.
When will be suitable for me to get married?
when will I find that person if it's not him?
How's my Bazi and what do you see in my chart?

Thank you

I'm sorry for your loss. If I were you, I would just let him go.

Your self-element is Yin Wood. Your ex self-element is Yang Metal.

You don't have Yang Metal, so naturally you want him a lot. Unfortunately, your BF has excessive Yin Wood element... which means it's so easy for him to leave and forget about you.

Physically, I think you look attractive because you have strong Yin Wood (flower) and Xin Metal (diamond). Your ex is equally attractive. Balanced between Xin/Yang Metal and then really strong Yin Wood.

You will find more suitors in your mid 20s to early 30s. However, you should be more decisive to "seal the deal" later.

You are a self-driven and independent woman which may not sit well with your ex. Despite your strong personality, you seem like a cool person emotionally.

Your ex has little Earth. Indicating that he may have a problem with buying/owning a house. His best period will come in his 50s. His ideal partner's self-element is Yin Fire.

Thank you for your advice! Yes i am very independent where he wanted me to rely more on him. He said I listen to my mom and family opinion too much and can't make my own decisions.

He said he wants to get married before 30. Do you think that's possible in his chart?

[crimsongem]

   

Thank you for your advice! Yes i am very independent where he wanted me to rely more on him. He said I listen to my mom and family opinion too much and can't make my own decisions.

He said he wants to get married before 30. Do you think that's possible in his chart?

Yes, it's possible he would get married in 2023-2025 and then somehow get a property in 2024.

[yc poon]

Just my view, based on the chart

You are an emotional person with consistence busy mentally and hardworking psychically but not really a define goal. you have internal conflict and tend to be indecisive. you consistency feel lonely and inpatient. often feel betrayed or misunderstood by the people around you.

As for the guy
similarly he seem directionless that easily be influenced by the people around him. often contradiction himself with thought and action. Therefore he tend to looking someone that able to control him.

Both of you looking for someone can show u the direction. i would just let it go
just my opinion, for marriage is a big decision, that should not depend on other people's opinion that does have the grasp of the full picture 

[Sharbear890]

   

Thank you for your advice! Yes i am very independent where he wanted me to rely more on him. He said I listen to my mom and family opinion too much and can't make my own decisions.

He said he wants to get married before 30. Do you think that's possible in his chart?

Yes, it's possible he would get married in 2023-2025 and then somehow get a property in 2024.

What's his chart in the future like for his wife/future? And how my chart for my marriage life in the future?

[Sharbear890]

Just my view, based on the chart

You are an emotional person with consistence busy mentally and hardworking psychically but not really a define goal. you have internal conflict and tend to be indecisive. you consistency feel lonely and inpatient. often feel betrayed or misunderstood by the people around you.

As for the guy
similarly he seem directionless that easily be influenced by the people around him. often contradiction himself with thought and action. Therefore he tend to looking someone that able to control him.

Both of you looking for someone can show u the direction. i would just let it go
just my opinion, for marriage is a big decision, that should not depend on other people's opinion that does have the grasp of the full picture

Yes I agree it is a big decision and can't be something to decide just like that. What is his overall personality like?